You know it’s amazing how something I’m currently thinking about in the present moment always seems to come up as a question on this site. This has happened numerous times. Anyway, growing up I had a little problem with minding my own business. This came in the form of not knowing when something was considered private and not realizing that people who told me this growing up meant no disrespect to me. However, in the earliest uses of this phrase against me, it usually upset me as I felt like I was being excluded from something, (it had been used more often than not by people in school if I managed to get involved in their situations, problems,) ETC. It was used a few times by mom and others throughout my life and it always had the same outcome. I would cry and scream and sometimes even threaten those who dared tell me this phrase. I was taught by a teacher that the phrase indeed meant no harm and that it does not just apply to me. From there, it got easter and though it was not used as often against me, it was at some points. The difference was how I handled the situation and being told this. As I got older, I would often argue if a situation should involve me or not especially if it appeared to possibly effect me on the surface. At times, this even got under my skin to the point where I would violently and sometimes physically harm someone who told me this phrase. It did still result in some bouts of crying. I know I was told off by my babysitter’s boyfriend poolside one summer. I don’t remember what lead up to this but I remember that it ended with him uttering that phrase rather assertively to me causing me to cry. The result was that he went for a swim….a privilege that I afforded him by pushing him into the water out of revenge. I’m pretty sure I got in trouble for this when mom found out.
Now if you’ve read this response up to this point, you might notice that it does not address the question at all. The truth is that in this moment, as this question came up, I was thinking about these very instances where I used to think ill of that phrase and how things have changed in regards to how I handle being told this. It started as a phrase that no one should dare say in my presence only for it to become something that I slowly started to realize wasn’t a bad thing. Fast forward to present day and this phrase is something that I live by. Though I’m considered to be an open book, (I probably divulge more information than I should,) the fact is that there’s still some parts of my life I want to keep private. I had a lot of periods in my teenage years that I would like to forget but I guess the one bit of advice i could give my teenage self is to stay in shape and don’t eat as much junk food. However, there was a lot of problems I had as a teenager and those ones well, are none of your business if I’m being honest.
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