I like to think that no matter how old you get, everybody is still a kid at heart. For me, this saying could not be more true. Something that I’m working on with mom is trying to handle situations I find myself in as any person my age would. Unfortunately, this has not produced the desired result that I’m sure mom wants to reach. You see, I’m currently 36 years old but I feel like the way I handle things would prove that I’m much younger. This is because despite my age, the most effective way of handling every situation, no matter what it is, would be to involve mom. Most situations don’t get resolved properly without her involvement and by my own admission, more often than not I end up having done something wrong either to antagonize a person who I was presently arguing with or maybe I felt a rule wasn’t fair and I have needed validation from mom that the rule was fair as I was not perceiving it that way, and even at home, a lot of issues I find myself in with staff where I live, (I live in assisted living,) need to go through mom as I had unintentionally angered the staff with how I initially tried to handle the situation prior to her involvement. Sometimes I will swear and begin to feel like certain people have it in for me particularly if I’m constantly told off by the same person or if I feel my care isn’t being done the way I believe it should be and the most present problem of all, one that has been brought to mom’s attention more than anything else in regards to my staff care, is the realization that I’m indeed not the only one who receives care and that I can’t always have things when I want ETC. One problem in particular that I had last night, (I will not disclose what it was due to it being private,) involved that same problem with me believing I had done right and had done what I believed mom would have done if she was present only for my staff to yell at me and basically say that I’m not the only one who lives here. The argument should have been won by me, (at least I thought it would have been,) as what I was asking for wasn’t unreasonable. This made me upset and I thought for sure that mom would have some choice words for that particular person. Well this morning she did have some choice words but they were for me. It took her all of 30 seconds to interject on the matter, (I didn’t even have time to finish the sentence because she’s been dealing with this for so long,) before she said this rather abruptly I might add. By the way, my first name is Jeff so I’m referring to myself when saying this and she did use my name before going off on her rant and settling me down and part of the solution to this problem having gotten sick of dealing with it was for me to move which is where the comment mom made comes in
“Jeff, you know when you’re supposed to do (insert task.) You cannot just randomly ask people for help with (Insert task.) You know this and yes, you are not the only one who lives there. You should have done (insert task) in the morning. That’s why you have your scheduled call but you would rather sit there and do nothing because you think it’s too early or you’re too tired ETC. It’s your problem if (insert scenario happens) when you don’t do what you’re supposed to do when you’re supposed to do it. And you’re not moving. Do you know how lucky you are to have these services? People to help with things you can’t do? Do you know what I would do to have the services you do? Let me tell you right now that you’re not living with me because I’m too weak to take care of you. Jeff I’m only going to say this once more. You will respect staff and do things when you’re supposed to do them. If not, there will be consequences. Now if and when you see, (insert name of staff,) today I want a sincere apology for what you said. It is ridiculous that this keeps happening. If you don’t watch yourself, you’re going to get kicked out of there and if you do, you’re on your own. You’re not moving in with me. You can’t afford your own place. You can’t take care of yourself so you are going to be placed. Face it Jeff, you’ve got everything you need so don’t ruin it. Because if you get kicked from that place, I will want nothing to do with you.”
Ok so some of what I just wrote has been mom’s warnings to me during different conversations relating to same topic. Unfortunately, we’ve had this conversation more than once but she wasn’t happy this morning at all.
So I pretty much handle situations by calling mom. It may sound childish but it’s the truth. I’m a 36 year old momma’s boy currently but this is in the process of changing
By Jefferson Bert
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