I don’t really have a clear answer for this one. The question of whether I believe in soulmates or not has varied throughout the course of my life. Of course, I grew up thinking that if I was going to be happy, I would be in love. During the last summer before I started high school, I didn’t think I would be able to make it as a popular kid if I didn’t have a girlfriend. I watched a lot of 90’s tv shows which depicted high school relationships growing up and it appeared to me that the coolest kids were always the ones that had the girl. Therefore, it was my goal to find a girlfriend and maybe even get married after high school. However, I didn’t expect what ended up happening though. It took me four years into high school to find a girlfriend first of all but once i did, I ended up spending the better part of my adult life wishing I hadn’t met her at all and changing my views on relationships all together. The aftermath of these problems, (which believe it or not are sort of being felt almost 20 years later,) left most of my family quietly praying that I never find anyone again. Once I got rid of these problems stemming from the aftermath of my failed relationship, (which keep popping up still from time to time,) I changed my belief entirely to my answer being no. Having said that, I went through a phase which lasted at least a few months where I felt like having a girlfriend could be a possibility. This was changed back to my answer being no when I realized what my friend who is married goes through with me having no desire to deal with that type of relationship myself. Despite this belief, I get brief moments of considering the possibility of having another girlfriend as I believe I’m more mature and don’t want to be alone forever. However, this changes once I remember all of the negative emotions I went through with my first girlfriend.

I guess the easiest answer I can come up with is that I don’t know whether soulmates are good or not. As far as I’m concerned, it depends on each person’s opinion. Some may believe in them, some may not. While I’m not quite sure where I stand, I believe it is better for me not to have one but then again, I feel sometimes that I may be able to handle it.

As of right now though, I am happy with the way things are.

By Jefferson Bert